Saturday, March 10, 2012

Touch me the right way daddy…


Touch me the right way daddy…
Have you ever thought of the right ways to touch children??  The book suggest that haptic/ touch send different messages to boys and girls (P 145). The book says that parents tend to touch daughters more gently and often than they do their sons.  Do you have kids?? Do you do as the book states?? I feel that parents and society and all other agents of socialization instill these thoughts and feeling in children. All cultures are different, in our culture we believe that it appropriate to touch children on the head. However in Asian culture it is considered in appropriate to do such a thing. Here is an article that talks about this further along with other nonverbal.
The article talks about how in the Middle East the left hand is the hand that is reserved for bodily hygiene and that it should not touch any other objects for any matter.  The article also talks about the Muslim culture and how touch between the opposite sexes is also inappropriate.  Reading this article I just realize how our families and cultures play such a huge role on our beliefs.  In class we discussed touch and the differences in touch between boys and girls. I remember Cassie sharing that she had a No! No! Square.  It’s interesting to hear all the stories of how life lessons were learned when we were younger. I feel that if we were raised in believing that something was okay or that something was wrong, that is what we would believe.  If we were taught that it is okay for people to touch us curtain ways; we would believe and teach our children that way of life....Right?? This whole topic makes me think of sexual abuse.  Do you think touch has anything to do with sexual abuse?? I feel that touch and the way you were raised has everything to do with sexual abuse. If we believed that there was nothing wrong with touch, sexual abuse wouldn’t really matter right; would it even be mentioned anymore??  

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